Doing no harm is the best way to be, absolutely. Welcome to my blog and thank you for commenting.

Vance

Yes, people sometimes do bad things to others for various reasons, out of selfishness, low self-esteem bully mentality, to get attention and who knows what else besides just being ignorant or evil.

Doing good things for others is so much better way to be remembered, of course. It’ll make everybody, including you, feel good right now and when they remember it as well.

Thank you for the visit and comment. I look forward to your next one.

Vance

But as to me, I don’t do bad things to be remembered until someone came and broke my heart.
He made me do bad things so he could never forget me, the once a looser but now they almost vow to.
If you ask me, did it made me happy?
Nope, it didn’t.

Yes, I got what I want, to be remembered.
But it never fulfilled me until someone came.
He turned my stone heart into soft again.
It was pretty pleasing.

I realize, doing bad things can make you remembered but believe me, it will never satisfy you.
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It was terrible at that time for me and even now the story seems a bit too much but that was my first wake up call to reality from naive and innocent childhood. I realized then that things aren’t always what they are supposed to be.

But your dog story would have been be even more horrifying to me. I’ve had some wonderful dogs when growing up and I know how devastating that must have been for you. It’s great that Bandit survived. I’m sure he didn’t blame you one bit.

Vance

Thanks for being honest.

I think that wanting to be remembered is built into us by nature. I’m not sure I can fully believe those who say that they couldn’t care less if they are remembered or not and that certainly they wouldn’t pause and consider their actions in order for them not to taint and improve their legacy.

To me not caring about these things kind of indicates their not caring at all about the affects of their actions in the present either.

The majority of people do want to be remembered and admit it. Unfortunately there are too many of those who just want to be remembered, good or bad, and will do anything just to leave a mark.

I agree with your view that rather than being remembered negatively it’s better to not be remembered at all.

But there is no shortage of good things that we can do daily and thus will be remembered in a positive light and with some luck be an inspiration to some.

The chewing gum thing was something that I still can’t understand. The mentality of those people. I can’t even imagine putting myself into that kind of frame of mind. Yuk.

Thanks for the comment.
Vance

If I was going to be remembered I would want it to be for something positive I did and not something negative. I reckon I’d rather not be remembered at all rather than being remembered for some vile negative act, like stealing a child’s gum and chewing it….ewwww!
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Being bullied is no fun. Actually I was only really bullied by one guy who bullied the whole class, one at a time, until my sister told me that she thought I was actually stronger and shouldn’t be afraid of the kid.

So I stood up to him and managed to pin him down. About 3 or 4 other classmates witnessed it and spread the word around.
That was the end of the bullying. After that I wasn’t afraid of anybody.

The kindergarten story was not so much a case of bullying. The teachers kid knew he could get away with it which was proven by what the teacher did, nothing.

Chewing gums are now plentiful where I grew up. To a US kid the comparable value to what the gum meant to me then would be something like an ipod now, quite a big deal. Although these days some kids don’t really value anything that much.

Yes, the golden rule still works.
Thanks for commenting.

Vance

Wow, That’s quite a story. I was bullied a lot, as I was growing up. It sucks and is hard to understand. Bullies obviously have something missing in their makeup to have to get attention by doing harm to others.

It’s interesting how incidents, like the one you described, stick with us for so long. That definitely made quite an impression on you. The whole thing begs the question – Where did you grow up? I guess, growing up in the US, like I did, that we often take for granted how fortunate we are. Chewing gum? Just go to the store and buy some.

Anyway, I try to live by the following, and I did not come up with it, I have learned it from what life has shown me. I try to treat others as I would like them to treat me. So far, that has worked pretty well.

Mike
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